Let Them Eat More Cake

February 27, 2013 § 4 Comments

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I would like to add a brief addendum to what I wrote yesterday regarding kids and money.

In short, I believe there is tremendous value in having your children bear witness to a certain amount of struggle, if only because I’m pretty well convinced that struggle is foundational to the development of both character and gratitude. This is particularly true when kids are allowed to be part of the process of resolving struggle. I do not want Fin and Rye to grow up immersed in the expectation that life should be only plenty, and that they are entitled to the many comforts and conveniences that even we, in our embrace of patched-together rural rusticality, avail ourselves of.

The key, I suppose, is finding the correct balance between struggle and struggle, between something that is occasionally hard, yes, but also in a strange way uplifting, and something that is merely grinding and dispiriting.

And believe me, if I knew exactly what that balance looked like, I’d shouting it from the high hills of Cabot, Vermont.

§ 4 Responses to Let Them Eat More Cake

  • dbelson says:

    “In short, I believe there is tremendous value in having your children bear witness to a certain amount of struggle, if only because I’m pretty well convinced that struggle is foundational to the development of both character and gratitude.”

    This is why I enjoy reading your website Ben, simple wisdom. Not easily practiced, but (I think) very beneficial. Thank you for these little reminders.

  • Jeannie says:

    Cake, and cake part 2 are such great examples of true family and what the difference is between want and need.

  • You’re a wise bloke, Ben. Love your work and looking forward to reading SAVED.

  • KarlaJ says:

    Ben, you inspire me everyday with your outlook on life and sage wisdom. I feel so sorry for people who have family but no “family time”, and I see it everywhere. Thankfully, I grew up with 3 siblings and a mother and father whose joy in life was raising their children. I do not have kids of my own, but I’ve observed how my sister and brothers lavish their offspring with LOVE and TIME. Thanks, Mom and Dad! And thank you, Ben.

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